Conduct - Manners
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· It
is like the polite manners towards parents and children; revering the old and
treating the young tenderly.
· Linking
blood relationships is part of faith. The Arabic word Ar-Rahim (uterus, i.e.
blood relation) is derived from Allah's Name Ar-Rahman (The All-Merciful).
·
Linking
blood relationships is done through visiting each other, giving charity, and
advice.
·
Be
keen to maintain ties with one’s family even if they try to cut these
relations, show patience and do not give offence.[17]
·
Blood
relationships are only to be cut with unbelievers (other than parents) or
sinners, while praying to Allah for their guidance and forgiveness.
· Money
is the wealth of Allah and the wealthy person is Allah's successor of what He
has bestowed on him.
·
The
poor have a definite right in the wealth of the rich.
·
Only
money spent on the poor or in any form of charity is what remains after our
death.
· Feeding
the poor is an expiation of some sins such as violation of one’s oath, game
hunting while being in the confines of the Haram (sanctuary), injurious
assimilation (of wife to mother) (Zhihar), and breaking one’s fast during
daytime in Ramadan.
·
Feeding
the poor is a means to enter Paradise.
· The
Prophet (peace be upon him) was an excellent example of generosity with the
poor.[18]
·
It
is highly recommended in the Qur’an and Sunnah.
· Islam
repeatedly warns about the serious nature of the sin of exploiting an orphan’s
wealth for other than their interest.
·
Islam calls for protecting and investing the orphans' wealth with beneficence,
until they are at an age where they can manage it responsibly.[19]
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Evidence from Qur'an and Sunnah
Linking blood relationships:
Allah
says:
]وَالَّذِينَ
يَصِلُونَ
مَا أَمَرَ
اللّهُ بِهِ
أَن يُوصَلَ
وَيَخْشَوْنَ
رَبَّهُمْ
وَيَخَافُونَ
سُوءَ
الحِسَابِ[
(الرعد: 21)
This
means: “Those who join that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e.
they are good to their relatives and do not sever the bond of kinship), fear
their Lord, and dread the terrible reckoning (i.e. abstain from all kinds of
sins and evil deeds which Allah has forbidden and perform all kinds of good
deeds which Allah has ordained).” (13, Ar-Ra`d: 21)
Allah
says:
]فَهَلْ
عَسَيْتُمْ
إِن
تَوَلَّيْتُمْ
أَن
تُفْسِدُوا
فِي الأرْضِ
وَتُقَطِّعُوا
أَرْحَامَكُمْ[
(محمد:
22)
This
means: “Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in
the land, and sever your ties of kinship?” (47, Muhammad: 22)
]فَآتِ
ذَا
الْقُرْبَى
حَقَّهُ
وَالْمِسْكِينَ
وَابْنَ
السَّبِيل[
(الروم:
38)
This
means: “So give to the kindred his due, and to AlMiskin (the poor) and
to the wayfarer.” (30, Ar-Rum: 38)
Allah
says:
(الأنفال:
75)
This
means: “But kindred by blood are nearer to one another regarding
inheritance in the decree ordained by Allah.” (8, Al-Anfal: 75)
Allah
says:
]وَاتَّقُواْ
اللّهَ
الَّذِي
تَسَاءلُونَ
بِهِ
وَالأَرْحَامَ[
(النساء:
1)
This
means: “And fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and
(do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship).”
(4, An-Nisa’: 1)
The
Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“And
the one who believes in Allah and the Last Day should tie his kinship.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari)
The
Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
“That who recompenses the good done to him by some one
(relative)
is not the one who upholds the ties of relationship. It is he who keeps good
relations with those relatives who cut asunder the bond of kinship with
him.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari)
The
Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
“That
who likes to be granted more provision, and his life be prolonged, let him
tie his kith and kin.” (Reported
by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
The
Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“Charity
towards a poor one is counted as charity, and towards a relation is both
charity and keeping blood relationships.”
(Reported
by At-Tirmidhi)
Abu
Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him ) narrated that a man said to the
Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him):
The
Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
“Ar-Rahim (the ties of
relationship) is suspending
from the Throne (of Allah)
saying: That who keeps good relations with me, Allah will keep good ties
with him, but that who ever severs relations with me, Allah will sever the
ties with him.” (Reported by Muslim)
The
Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
“Allah
created the creations and when He accomplished His creations, Ar-Rahim
(the
kinship) said:
(O Allah)
at this place I seek refuge with You from all those who sever me
(sever the ties of kith and kin).
Allah said: Yes. Are not you satisfied that I should keep ties with him who
keeps you united and sever connection with him who severs you?”
(Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
The
Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“Allah, the Exalted,
has said: I am Ar-Rahman (the Most Compassionate). I created Ar-Rahim (the
uterus). I have derived its name from My name. If anyone joins it, I shall
join him, and if anyone cuts it off, I shall cut him off.” (Reported
by At-Tirmidhi)
Allah
says:
]وَأَنفِقُوا
مِمَّا
جَعَلَكُم مُّسْتَخْلَفِينَ
فِيه[
(الحديد: 7)
This
means: “And spend of that whereof He has made you trustees.”
(57, Al-Hadid: 7)
Allah
says:
]وَالَّذِينَ
فِي
أَمْوَالِهِمْ
حَقٌّ
مَّعْلُومٌ.
لِّلسَّائِلِ
وَالْمَحْرُومِ[
(المعارج:
24 - 25)
This
means: “And those in whose wealth there is a known right, For the beggar
who asks, and for the unlucky who has lost his property and wealth, (and his
means of living has been straitened).”
(70, Al-Ma`arij: 24 - 25)
Allah
says:
]وَمَا
أَنفَقْتُم
مِّن شَيْءٍ
فَهُوَ
يُخْلِفُهُ
وَهُوَ
خَيْرُ
الرَّازِقِينَ[
(سبأ: 39)
This
means: “And whatsoever you spend of anything (in Allah's Cause), He will
replace it. And He is the Best of providers.” (34, Saba’: 39)
Allah
says:
]إِنَّمَا
نُطْعِمُكُمْ
لِوَجْهِ
اللَّهِ لا
نُرِيدُ
مِنكُمْ
جَزَاء وَلا
شُكُورًا.
إِنَّا
نَخَافُ مِن
رَّبِّنَا
يَوْمًا
عَبُوسًا
قَمْطَرِيرًا.
فَوَقَاهُمُ
اللَّهُ
شَرَّ
ذَلِكَ
الْيَوْمِ
وَلَقَّاهُمْ
نَضْرَةً
وَسُرُورًا[
(الإنسان:
9 - 11)
This
means: “We feed you seeking Allah's Countenance only. We wish for no
reward, nor thanks from you. Verily, We fear from our Lord a Day, hard and
distressful, that will make the faces look horrible (from extreme
dislikeness to it). So Allah saved them from the evil of that Day, and gave
them Nadratan (a light of beauty) and joy.” (76, Al-Insan: 9 - 11)
The
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
“O
son of Adam! You say: My property, my property. Have you anything but what
you eat and use up or wear and make threadbare or give in charity and
execute it?” (Reported by Muslim)
The
Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
“O
people, exchange greetings of peace (i.e., say: As-Salamu `Alaykum to one
another), feed people, strengthen the ties of kinship, and be in prayer when
others are asleep, (in return)
you will enter Paradise in
peace.” (Reported by At-Tirmidhi)
Anas Ibn
Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated:
“Whenever
a person begged anything from the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) in
Islam, he (the Prophet) would fulfill his demand. (Once) a man came to him
(begging) and the Prophet gave him a herd of sheep scattered between the two
mountains. When he returned to his people, he said to them: O my people!
Enter the fold of Islam because Muhammad (peace be upon him) gives so much
just as a person who has no fear of poverty and need.” (Reported
by Muslim)
Allah
says:
]فَأَمَّا
الْيَتِيمَ
فَلا
تَقْهَر[
(الضحى: 9)
This
means: “Therefore, treat not the orphan with oppression.”
(93, Ad-Duha: 9)
Allah
says:
]أَرَأَيْتَ
الَّذِي
يُكَذِّبُ
بِالدِّينِ.
فَذَلِكَ
الَّذِي
يَدُعُّ
الْيَتِيمَ[
(الماعون:
1 - 2)
This
means: “Have you seen him who denies the Recompense? That is he who
repulses the orphan (harshly).” (107, Al-Ma`un: 1 - 2)
Allah
says:
]وَآتُواْ
الْيَتَامَى
أَمْوَالَهُمْ
وَلاَ
تَتَبَدَّلُواْ
الْخَبِيثَ
بِالطَّيِّبِ
وَلاَ
تَأْكُلُواْ
أَمْوَالَهُمْ
إِلَى
أَمْوَالِكُمْ
إِنَّه كَانَ
حُوبًا
كَبِيرًا[
(النساء: 2)
This
means: “And give unto orphans their property and do not exchange (your)
bad things for (their) good ones; and devour not their substance (by adding
it) to your substance. Surely, this is a great sin.” (4, An-Nisa’: 2)
Allah
says:
]إِنَّ
الَّذِينَ
يَأْكُلُونَ
أَمْوَالَ
الْيَتَامَى
ظُلْمًا
إِنَّمَا
يَأْكُلُونَ
فِي
بُطُونِهِمْ
نَارًا
وَسَيَصْلَوْنَ
سَعِيرًا[
(النساء: 10)
This
means: “Verily, those who unjustly eat up the property of orphans, they
eat up only a fire into their bellies, and they will be burnt in the blazing
Fire!” (4, An-Nisa’: 10)
Sahl Ibn Sa`d (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the
Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
“That who takes care of an orphan and I will be in Paradise like these two
(fingers).
He raised his forefinger and middle finger by way of illustration.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari)
The
Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“Whoever
passes his hand over the head of an orphan (out of kindness) only for the
sake of Allah will have a virtue recorded to his credit for every single
hair his hand passes over.”
(Reported
by Ahmad)
The
Messenger (peace be upon him) said:
“The best house (in a Muslim
community) is that in which
there is an orphan who is well-treated, and the worst
(of their houses)
is the one in which there is an orphan who is maltreated.”
(Reported
by Ibn Majah)
The
Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
“Avoid the seven deadly things.
It was said: What are they,
Messenger of Allah? He replied:
Associating anything with Allah, practicing sorcery, killing one whom Allah
has declared inviolable without a just cause, devouring the property of an
orphan, devouring usury, fleeing from the battlefield, and accusing the
pious women with adultery.”
(Reported by Al-Bukhari)
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